Wife refuses to financially contribute more to the household after discovering husband hid important details from their prenup, he calls her greedy: ‘He wants a roommate, not a partner’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
May 25, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Some couples will swear by signing a prenup before getting married, while others will claim it brings nothing but trouble and heartache. Whether you agree with the former statement or the latter, you must agree that if a couple decides to still go for a prenup, it must be done right.

If the prenup is unfair, or if one side purposely withholds information as the document is being constructed, then the couple might as well kiss their marriage goodbye. This legal agreement is the very foundation of the marriage, and if both sides can't be honest and open when it comes to that, they are definitely not ready to tie the knot.

Sadly, many couples ignore the warning signs the prenup is revealing and decide to go ahead with tying their lives together alongside a prenup that does not really reflect their situation.

Is that the case of the couple in the story below? We will let you be the judges of that. Keep scrolling to read the tale of a wife who signed a prenup mostly to protect her husband's assets, but has now come to learn that he hasn't been fully honest about his financial state.

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    AITA for refusing to split household expenses 50/50 with my husband?

    I (28f) have been married to my husband (35m) for a couple of months now (we've together for 5 years). Before getting married we decided to get a prenup mostly to
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    protect his assets. He runs his own small company and owns the house that we live in. He controls how much he gets paid. His baseline is high though because the country
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    we live in has a lot of taxes and because he sends a substantial amount of money to his parents (repaying the loan for the house but also living expenses for them since
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    they lost their retirement, so he has to send the money). My situation is not bad, I have a good job and while my income is still much lower than his, I'm considered upper
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    than his, I'm considered upper middle class here. The only problem is that I still have a big student loan that I'm struggling to pay and also parents who sometimes need financial support.
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    Before getting married I was renting my own nice little apartment and living a nice life with no one's support. After getting married I put the rent money towards paying off the loan I took for the
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    wedding and once that was paid off it's now going 20% towards family and 80% loan repayment (this situation is temporary and should only take one more year).
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    The problem is this: In the prenup, we agreed we will each contribute proportionally to our income. His assets (car, house, company) will remain his and anything else we buy
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    in the future will be devised based on our contributions to it. So financially it's 100% separate. However, the money that he sends to his parents was never
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    in the equation because it's his house, I don't think I should pay more for the household expenses (gaz, grocery, taxes, etc) even though I get paid less just because he needs to pay off
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    the house that he owns. Also tax wise I'm now getting taxed a bit more because he makes more money and he wanted to have a common taxation for the house. I feel like I need to stabilise my situation
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    instead of paying more for groceries. If he was in a difficult situation, I would gladly do it, but he's not. He says it's not about the money and it's about the principle and I'm being greedy. I don't
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    think I am. I think I'm being reasonable and fair. I want to stabilise my situation so that when we're ready to buy a house together the student loan won't be a blocker.
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    So, am I the ah le? Note: what he actually asked is that I pay more for household expenses so not even 50/50 but more 60/40 (with me being the 60). Right now it's 40/60 (him being the 60)
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    Clarification: the percentages here do not take into account what he sends to his parents. It's based on our full net incomes before any other expense. So I am not paying for the house. He did tell me
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    about the loan but I assumed it was small and payed off because he called the money sent to his parents as "support money". He is very transparent about his finances and how much his company makes.
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    Clarification 2: he does NOT want me to pay his loan with him, just pay more for grocery etc.
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    Lopsided_Turn4606 He insisted on the prenup you go by the prenup. To be honest though I would be really cautious about buying a
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    house with him. He has already been dishonest about his finances with you regarding the loan from his parents. I wouldn't be surprised if he's hiding something else.
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    Accurate Elephant_78 He wants a roommate, not a partner.
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    Civil Consumer I have a massive issue with prenups that don't split earnings during a marriage 50/50. You are supporting each other, taking risks together, potentially having children and caring for them together but earnings are separate? I can't see how that makes sense.
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    InfamousCup7097 Why are you only you responsible for the wedding debt? If he wants to change to you paying more then he needs to get rid of the prenup and put your name in the house too. Nta
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